Little Things Matter
May 2020
Worry is something we all go through from time to time. It’s a natural part of life. And people show their worry in different ways.
For me, when I worry I get all consumed on how to try and fix it, without knowing how to fix it. It usually puts me in a dark place. However, since going on this journey, I try to only think about things I can actually control.
When things are out of my control, I have learned that there is no point worrying about it because there’s nothing I can do to change the situation. Except for me, I pray and hand it to God. That is my comfort.
During this time of lockdown it has been a very worrying time for all of us. Perhaps we have been worried about our physical health, mental health, family, our job, our finances, going food shopping and what the future is going to look like. However, these are all worries out of our control.
So I have tried not to let these worries affect me. I don’t watch too much news about it or look much on social media. I try and avoid googling things that might cause me concern.
I have found though that I have been worrying more about the little things I can do something about, for one example it’s my hair!!
My hair has always been something I look after (I used to be a hairdresser) and I have regular trims and highlights to keep my hair in good shape. However, with hairdressers not being allowed to work, I have been worried slightly about my hair, mainly on how big my roots were going to get. It is kind of ironic that with everything going on in the world, I am worrying about my hair.
I found after 8 weeks that mentally I was suffering. Matt offered to buy me anything to cheer me up but I realised that doing something about my hair, was the lift I needed. So between myself and Matt, we hatched a plan to try and do it ourselves! And actually Matt did a great job!
I felt that the fact I had a bit of control over this small thing made all the difference. It seemed like everything that’s going on in the world was made more bearable.
We all have different coping mechanisms which may seem trivial to others but mean a lot to you. It’s handling the little things that make the big difference. You just have to find your little thing.
